My Lonely Ring Finger and the Scandal of Desire
"As soon as you don't want it anymore, that's when it'll happen." I cannot tell you how many times I've been given this "consolation". You may be wondering, what is this about? Isn't that a bit cryptic? Well, in this case specifically, this is in regards to being single...and wanting that state in life to end. In the best way, of course--that being in a relationship which (goodness willing) would lead to marriage. And the above quote is what I have been told, even rather recently, as a condolence from an acquaintance who is no longer experiencing that state of constricting singularity, and will be married soon. Why is it that as soon as people who understood the longing and pain in your heart when they themselves were single, after the start of a relationship in their own lives, have no idea how to relate to you? And, surprisingly, have no idea how to understand the pain of your own longing, the longing they themselves just had? Why is ...